Balancing Act

Well I have spent the last 3 weeks student teaching 3 days a week on top of being a mom, wife, and taking care of household chores, and I am feeling a bit (okay very) overwhelmed. Now Monday the fun begins.

Monday my university coursework officially begins, which means I will be gone 5 days a week 40 hours (plus an evening class), with homework and assignments.

My question to all of you amazing women is what is your trick to balancing it all?

I realize that I am going to have to let go of some of the housework, which means the cleanliness level is going to decline a bit. I just honestly don’t know how I’m going to handle that because having things neat and organized is what keeps peace in my life. It keeps my stress level a little lower, and just generally makes me happy.

Asking for help seems to be the most common advice I seem to get from people, and honestly it is probably the hardest for me to follow. I HATE asking others for help. In my mind I want to still be the same kind of mom and wife that I am now, before returning to school (and eventually working). I want to make dinner, do my family’s laundry, etc, and I totally realize that this is old fashioned. Doing these things for my family is a sort of validation for me. I feel like a better mom to my daughter when I do her laundry, prep her food/bottles, and put her to bed. I feel like a better wife when I do my husband’s laundry, clean, and make meals. None of these things are true to anyone around me, but they hold true for me.

I’m trying desperately to mentally prepare myself to ask for help.

I’m trying to let go of the need for perfection (or at least close to it) around the house.

I’m trying to keep my priorities in order.

But these things are all a lot harder than I ever thought they would be.

Please give me all the advice or words of wisdom you have Mommas!

Love Always,

Sam

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Letting Go

Hi my name is Sam, and I’m a bit (okay a lot) of a control freak.

In unison, “Hi Sam!”

As some of you may know I recently started my student teaching program, so I am now out of the house all day during the week. This means that I am also away from daughter all day for the first time (see here for how I feel about that part). My daughter isn’t being taken care of exactly the same way that I would (Well, hello Sam they aren’t you). She plays a little differently, she has naps at different times, and well everything is just a little different because its not me with her. In reality I’m pretty okay with this because I understand that she is happy, clean, and fed; which in the big scheme of things is all that really matters. There are times, however, that I literally want to lose my mind a little.

I will admit to you all that I like things done the way I like them done.

I know that this is slightly childish and rather annoying for people around me, but I just can’t help myself. Now when it comes to my daughter I’m even worse!

I’m learning (slowly, very slowly) how to let go and enjoy the way other people function and complete tasks. I’m not super woman and I simply can’t do everything myself, but honestly sometimes I wish I could. Help, therefore, is a bit of a necessity these days.

I want to smile and laugh with my little girl when I am home. I don’t want to be stressed and frustrated because somethings a little different. So I’m working on that…

I’m working on ignoring the little things to focus on the big ones.

I’m realizing what really matters.

I’m learning to accept help.

What do you all do to let go of control so that others can help you? And how do you know which “battles” are worth fighting?

Until Next Time Lovelies,

Sam