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My little girl is officially no longer a newborn! (Insert mom crying) These past three months have flown by and I cannot believe how much she has already changed and grown. Her hysterical little personality is starting to really surface and it is so fun to find out who she is as a little person. Oh man, though she most definitely got her momma’s sass, that is already evident. Keep me in your prayers for when I have a toddler.
A few of Charlotte’s Favorite Things:
- Screaming to hear her own voice while playing
- Giggling at mommy’s silly faces
- Bath time and floating in the bath
- Kicking her legs like a future soccer star
- Practicing her standing (and making mom and dad’s arms feel like they are going to fall off from constantly doing this)
- Getting her belly tickled and fart kisses on her nakey belly
- Eating her milk, duh
- Staring at her daddy in awe and wonder (and confusion as to what his beard is)
This month has been a pretty awesome month, I have to admit. She slept through the night about half of the time, so needless to say that’s been amazing. Seriously who would have thought that 7 hours of sleep would feel like a vacation! She is an early riser, though, like 5 am early. I’ve learned that the better she naps during the day, the better she sleeps at night (that was a learning curve, let me tell you). She’s reaching up and trying to hold her bottle, and she has found her hands, ladies and gentlemen! Oh my goodness does that girl suck on her hands and fingers. She is a drooling machine because of it, too.
We’re excited for this next month because my birthday is in April! More importantly we are going to the zoo for the first time with her as my present and I’m beyond excited. (Fair warning if you follow me on instagram I will be blowing up my feed that day, April 23rd.) She is so close to rolling over so I will be on pins and needles waiting for that happen! All the new things that this next will bring has me so excited.
What are your favorite memories of your little ones as newborns? If you’re expecting your first, what early milestones are you the most excited for?
I cannot believe that my little peanut is already two months old!! She is growing so fast and learning new things everyday.
Let’s start with the horrible two month check up. I say horrible because oh my goodness three shots in one appointment is rough on both of us. I know these are so beneficial and important but I hate seeing her get so upset. Plus I have always been a little extra sensitive to vaccines than most so I usually don’t feel great for a day or two after, and it looks like my little Charlotte has that same trait. We have had a lot of snuggle time over the last day and a half.
Besides the doctors appointment, this second month has been a lot of fun! She is making all sorts of new noises with a lot of cooing and still those zombie like grunts constantly. She smiles so much these days, but her daddy gets the smiles way more than momma. (Um kid I’m the one feeding you and changing all those dirty diapers so can I get a smile too?) Oh dads have it good at this age, don’t they? She loves to practice standing with mommy or daddy supporting her, and a lot of the time now it is the only way to get her to stop crying (needless to say my arms are killing me!) She likes to swing her arms at her toys and her favorites are the ones that jingle when they swing. Tummy time is no longer very fun for her because she tends to get frustrated that she can’t move her head around easily but we are getting closer and closer to rolling over each time. We are eating anywhere from 4 to 6 ounces of milk each feeding and mommy is struggling to keep up with the little piggie these days.
I can’t wait to see what the next month brings us and it’s crazy to think that in just two short months she has grown and changed so much! She’s my smart little girl who definitely has her mothers sass and her daddy’s stubbornness!
Before I get started let me say that being mommy to my little girl Charlotte is truly the most rewarding job that I have ever done. I’m beyond grateful that I get to be her mom, but that’s not to say that there are some aspects of this job title that are not very glamorous or enjoyable. This post is dedicated to being honest about the times in which I am on the verge of pulling all of my hair out.
Breastfeeding is NOT all it’s cracked up to be.
First of all it hurts, not just like “oh, ouch” but “holy cow get this baby off of me!” It literally feels like your child is trying to suck that part of your body right off. Plus if your baby is anything like mine, they will fall asleep after about 5 minutes and refuse to wake up, so they will wake up hungry every hour instead of every 2. Breastfeeding, don’t get me wrong, once you get the hang of it (which can take months) is a wonderful bonding experience but don’t let those other moms fool you, it is tough!
Newborns poop…A LOT.
I know, I know everyone says this and as a first time I honestly thought people were just being dramatic. Nope! I swear to you Charlotte pooped like 10 times in one day when she was 2 weeks old. How can something so small produce so much poop!? Well if you ate every hour and a half to two hours I’m sure you would too. As a new mom I spend about half my day changing dirty diapers, and I’m not going to lie when the hubby gets home I am ecstatic to have him change a few.
Who really can “nap when they nap?”
I’ve never been a napping person to begin with but sleeping when the baby does during the day is literally impossible most of the time. Some days she only sleeps for maybe 45 minutes at a time, and other days she wakes right back up as soon as I set her down (especially as a newborn). Plus I do have to feed myself at some point during the day so usually naptime is the perfect opportunity to quickly shovel food into mouth before working on the never ending mountain of dirty clothes. If I slept when she did during the day, she would have no clean clothes or burp clothes, I would starve to death (that may be slightly dramatic), and my apartment would be absolutely filthy (not that it’s spotless at the moment). Napping when they nap is like finding a unicorn it is a magical concept that only exists in fairytales.
A screaming baby loses some of the “cuteness” appeal.
Babies are adorable; we can all agree on that, but after your newborn has been crying ALL day those adorable little cheeks just don’t seem quite so cute. I love my daughter her happy little face makes late night and early morning feedings beyond worth it. The days of constant screaming, on the other hand, make me want to rip my hair out, and she’s just not nearly as cute by the end of those.
Growth spurts suck!
Don’t get me wrong seeing my daughter grow is amazing and downright magical at times, but that 6 week growth spurt is absolutely terrible. You just got to the point where your baby is sleeping multiple hours in a row at night, and then the growth spurt happens. You go from 3-5 hours of sleep at one time to maybe 2 hours between feedings. Talk about rough! For my daughter it lasted about 4 nights, but it felt like eternity. I know there were nights I maybe got 2 hours total (and of course it was the middle of the week so I didn’t have help). Let’s just say I am sincerely dreading the next one.
The baby weight does NOT just “melt off.”
So I’ve always been one of “those” women who can eat whatever I want and never gain weight; I’m naturally small (I know you hate me). That being said I just assumed that all those stories of looking 6 months pregnant for weeks postpartum just wasn’t going to apply to me. Wrong!! You guys 8 weeks later I still have a pooch and my stomach is loose and slightly “flabby.” Breastfeeding definitely helps after about 2 weeks or so, but it does NOT take all of the weight. So be prepared and embrace it, and maybe buy some pants like one or two sizes up from your pre-baby jeans.
Sleep deprivation does more than just create bags under your eyes.
Yes, I permanently have dark circles under my eyes from my lack of sleep but that’s not even the worst of it. My skin has never looked so dull and just flat out unhealthy, and I was not prepared for that! Under eye concealer is easy to apply, but brightening up your entire complexion is a whole other story, besides who has the time with a baby to even attempt that?
Babies sometimes scream for some completely unknown reason.
There are times I have no idea why she’s crying. She’s been fed, she’s been changed, she recently had a nap, and I’m holding her, so what in the world is wrong!? I have had to come to the conclusion that sometimes my daughter is just in a bad mood regardless of what I do. I will admit that now I have a few more tricks to try to get her to calm down, but still there are those times where NOTHING works.
You will miss your life before baby.
At first I felt SO guilty that I would even think this. I love my daughter, and she is the best thing to ever happen to me; I cry just thinking about her growing up. Still sometimes I miss the ease of just being able to leave the house on a whim or being able to relax, uninterrupted with my husband. Am I a bad mom for thinking this? No I am a human and a person outside of being a mom, so I still have needs and wants of my own. Life before my daughter was definitely a lot easier but life with her is a whole lot better.
It’s easy to neglect your spouse with all that sleep deprivation.
Who wants to be intimate with someone when you could sleep instead!? Those times when you haven’t slept more than 4 hours total for the past three nights being in bed means one thing to you: sleep! Not to say I don’t miss my husband or want that intimacy back, I just want sleep more sometimes. There are other times during the weekend when he is home, and I just want to have time just to myself. He has the baby, and I just want to veg out without interruptions. Family is truly my favorite, when all three of us are together, but I have needs too and some of those needs require time all to myself.
Am a bad person or mom for thinking these things? At first I truly thought so, and I felt incredibly guilty, but now I realize I’m a person who is allowed these opinions once in a while. I love my daughter more than anything, and would do anything for her, but motherhood isn’t a magical place all the time.
Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for not enjoying every second of motherhood. It is magical and amazing, but it is also hard and exhausting.
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Being a Girl Mom
So first off let me start by saying that I am so stinking excited to have a little best friend for the rest of my life. I still want a boy(for a laundry list of reasons) but let’s be real here for a second, I was and still am relieved that my first is a little girl. For some reason it just felt a lot less intimidating as a first time mom to have a little girl. As I start to think about her future I have to admit that I do have some fears regarding how to raise her and the type of woman that I hope for her to become.
Strong, yet feminine:
I want my daughter to know that she can take of herself, that she can changer her own tire, shoot a gun and hunt with her dad, and basically be a tough girl, however I don’t want her to forget her femininity. Like how about some pink camo or hunting gear with her daddy? There’s nothing wrong with a girl who can handle her business but let’s just be honest for a second I don’t want her to “butch.” How do I convey that a pretty little girl in dresses and hair bows and can get dirty and be tough too?
Confidence without the Attitude:
Alright so we all have had those encounters with women, young girls, or teenage girls that are just a little too full of themselves, like they are fully aware that they have it going on. I don’t know about you but these are females that I do NOT want to be around. More importantly I don’t want my little Charlotte to be one of these either. On the flip side I also don’t wish my daughter to be meek. In my dreams she is humble, yet fully confident in her abilities and her strength. How do you teach a little girl to be self-assured without being “full of herself?”
Pride in her Appearance, Minus the Vanity
We are all aware at this point that my little girl has a momma who loves style and shopping. As a (strong) female I hope she always takes pride in what she puts on her body and how she presents herself to the world, but that is not to say that she needs to dress for anyone else but herself. I’m not asking for her to be a sheep or to dress to fit a mold, but I also hope that she doesn’t go out in the world everyday in dirty sweatpants and messy hair (now we all have those days but on occasion). With this pride in one’s self I hope she avoids the traps of vanity and materialism. A cute handbag or pair of shoes is never more valuable than the experiences of life. So ask how to teach to take pride appearance without it becoming the most important aspect of her life?
The Ability to Navigate this Crazy World with Grace
This modern world is getting nuttier and nuttier by the day and being a female there is added stress. How do I teach about being aware of her surroundings in order to protect herself without causing her to live in constant fear? How do I explain why a man still makes more than she does? What do I say when her first boyfriend breaks her heart and she never wants to date again (by the way according to my husband she is never allowed to date anyways)? My little girl is my whole world, but I want her to build a full and multifaceted world for herself, where she experiences adventures, is aware of the dangers of this modern world, and at the end of the day knows who she is and adds a little “pretty” where ever she goes.
As a new mom questions like these plus many more cross my mind everyday, and I look into her pretty little face and I am so excited to see her grow and become her own person. Of course these are all rhetorical in nature but they are something that will be answered as my husband and I navigate being her parents, and of course my little Charlotte will become the person that she wants to become.
Nothing but love and support to all the moms out there (and I know all you boy moms have your own list of hopes and dreams being a girl mom is just my experience).
and Little Miss Charlotte