You might have noticed over on Instagram that my husband and I’s wedding anniversary was Tuesday; we’ve been married 3 years now. Besides that little post and each of us verbally wishing the other a “Happy Anniversary” we didn’t do a thing to celebrate (I know gasp in shock). My mom even commented, “Wow, you’ve guys are already at the point, huh?” Well my answer is, no; we are not at the point where we don’t care about each other.
We’ve been married a whole 3 years, and yes I am proud of that time together. We have accomplished and been through a lot, however its only 3 years. Is it really necessary to celebrate every. single. year? In all honesty, that sounds a little exhausting. Sometimes in this new world of social media there can be pressure to prove your love to the world. You see couples doing vow renewals, epic vacations, fancy dinners for every occasion in their life and they fill your feed with their gorgeous photos together. It can be easy to feel like if you don’t show the world of social media all your perfect celebrations together then you must not have a stable marriage. I beg to argue the opposite. I love my husband to death and I love our marriage, but I like to think we show our affection and appreciation regularly.
Maybe if we had more financial freedom we would have gone out to a nice dinner and left the little one with a sitter. Or maybe we would have done the same thing. All I know is that my husband buying me flowers out of expectation and habit isn’t what I want or need to know he loves being married to me. I want to feel loved on the days that don’t matter on the calendar because those moments always seem to be a heck of a lot more memorable. I want authentic little signs of appreciation and love instead of the forced romance because its our anniversary.
What are your thoughts on celebrating anniversaries every year? Do you have any special traditions with your spouse?