A Rant from a New Mom

Alright fair warning that I’m going to use this post to vent a little (a lot) about some frustrations of being a new mom brought on by “veteran” moms. I say this out of love, but seriously give us a break and think about a few of these. 

Here is my list of things/comments that are so not helping me out. 

  • The constant flow of incoming advice (even when I didn’t ask for any) 
  • The telling of your worst horror stories about your children
  • Bragging to me relentlessly about how early your child hit a milestone that mine is taking longer to accomplish.
  • The need you feel to “parent” me on how to be a parent.
  • Asking me how my husband is doing as if you assume he must be struggling (this one actually seriously offends mine).
  • Telling me you think I’m doing something wrong
  • Questioning me about the pediatrician I chose so that I can gain your approval
  • Judging me as a parent based on the brands I choose to use. 

Here is my list of what I wish other moms would say or do for one another. This should be a sisterhood because let’s face it folks motherhood is hard! 

  • Feed me and tell me I’m pretty ( but seriously bringing food to a brand new momma and telling her she looks great is really all she needs in her life at that moment.)
  • Tell me that baby is absolutely beautiful (throwing in perfect doesn’t hurt either).
  • Tell me how great you think I’m doing and that I’m adapting to motherhood wonderfully.
  • When I’m upset that my beautiful baby isn’t hitting a milestone tell me a similar situation with your children.
  • Just be supportive and don’t judge me. (This is all I really ask)

In all honesty I am not trying to be mean but rather express my frustration as a young new mom. I love my fellow mommas and I’m so thrilled to be able to call myself my daughter’s mom, but it’s hard sometimes feeling constantly judged! Let’s make motherhood a club of supportive, happy women just trying to survive on kisses and caffeine. 
Love Always,

Sam 

   

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22 thoughts on “A Rant from a New Mom

  1. It’s an amazing experience of life but comes with extraordinary challenges too and then again every baby is different and so are their needs. “So if you’re not here to help I have a baby to look after, if you don’t mind…” that’s my standard response to insensitive people.

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  2. I am with you and experience similar situations. Even if it’s indirectly, I could tell what family/friends are really saying to me. It really does hurt and I try so hard to dismiss that. At the same time, it puts me at ease just a tad bit knowing that there is another person I can relate to. We are, after all, not alone in this world. You are a great mom and I am sure of it. God bless you.

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  4. Yes! I’m only 21 weeks pregnant with our first, but I’ve dealt with nearly all of this already and it makes me go crazy. So many people have opinions on everything I’m doing/feeling/thinking/buying/not buying. Luckily, my husband has been so sweet to listen to all of my venting, but goodness. Some days I wish no one knew I was pregnant and I’m sure it’ll only get worse from here! Also, she is absolutely adorable!

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    • I totally had those days too when I wished no one knew! Those days are hard but then now I have days that I’m so happy to be able to have a support system. But goodness everyone’s opinion is hard to hear! Good luck momma and congratulations! Stay strong and always listen to your gut! You’ll know your baby better than anyone.

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  5. I totally agree! Just tell me I’m pretty and doing a great job even if you don’t think I am! You are doing great, and you two are gorgeous!

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