Alright fair warning that I’m going to use this post to vent a little (a lot) about some frustrations of being a new mom brought on by “veteran” moms. I say this out of love, but seriously give us a break and think about a few of these.
Here is my list of things/comments that are so not helping me out.
- The constant flow of incoming advice (even when I didn’t ask for any)
- The telling of your worst horror stories about your children
- Bragging to me relentlessly about how early your child hit a milestone that mine is taking longer to accomplish.
- The need you feel to “parent” me on how to be a parent.
- Asking me how my husband is doing as if you assume he must be struggling (this one actually seriously offends mine).
- Telling me you think I’m doing something wrong
- Questioning me about the pediatrician I chose so that I can gain your approval
- Judging me as a parent based on the brands I choose to use.
Here is my list of what I wish other moms would say or do for one another. This should be a sisterhood because let’s face it folks motherhood is hard!
- Feed me and tell me I’m pretty ( but seriously bringing food to a brand new momma and telling her she looks great is really all she needs in her life at that moment.)
- Tell me that baby is absolutely beautiful (throwing in perfect doesn’t hurt either).
- Tell me how great you think I’m doing and that I’m adapting to motherhood wonderfully.
- When I’m upset that my beautiful baby isn’t hitting a milestone tell me a similar situation with your children.
- Just be supportive and don’t judge me. (This is all I really ask)
In all honesty I am not trying to be mean but rather express my frustration as a young new mom. I love my fellow mommas and I’m so thrilled to be able to call myself my daughter’s mom, but it’s hard sometimes feeling constantly judged! Let’s make motherhood a club of supportive, happy women just trying to survive on kisses and caffeine.