Being a Girl Mom
So first off let me start by saying that I am so stinking excited to have a little best friend for the rest of my life. I still want a boy(for a laundry list of reasons) but let’s be real here for a second, I was and still am relieved that my first is a little girl. For some reason it just felt a lot less intimidating as a first time mom to have a little girl. As I start to think about her future I have to admit that I do have some fears regarding how to raise her and the type of woman that I hope for her to become.
Strong, yet feminine:
I want my daughter to know that she can take of herself, that she can changer her own tire, shoot a gun and hunt with her dad, and basically be a tough girl, however I don’t want her to forget her femininity. Like how about some pink camo or hunting gear with her daddy? There’s nothing wrong with a girl who can handle her business but let’s just be honest for a second I don’t want her to “butch.” How do I convey that a pretty little girl in dresses and hair bows and can get dirty and be tough too?
Confidence without the Attitude:
Alright so we all have had those encounters with women, young girls, or teenage girls that are just a little too full of themselves, like they are fully aware that they have it going on. I don’t know about you but these are females that I do NOT want to be around. More importantly I don’t want my little Charlotte to be one of these either. On the flip side I also don’t wish my daughter to be meek. In my dreams she is humble, yet fully confident in her abilities and her strength. How do you teach a little girl to be self-assured without being “full of herself?”
Pride in her Appearance, Minus the Vanity
We are all aware at this point that my little girl has a momma who loves style and shopping. As a (strong) female I hope she always takes pride in what she puts on her body and how she presents herself to the world, but that is not to say that she needs to dress for anyone else but herself. I’m not asking for her to be a sheep or to dress to fit a mold, but I also hope that she doesn’t go out in the world everyday in dirty sweatpants and messy hair (now we all have those days but on occasion). With this pride in one’s self I hope she avoids the traps of vanity and materialism. A cute handbag or pair of shoes is never more valuable than the experiences of life. So ask how to teach to take pride appearance without it becoming the most important aspect of her life?
The Ability to Navigate this Crazy World with Grace
This modern world is getting nuttier and nuttier by the day and being a female there is added stress. How do I teach about being aware of her surroundings in order to protect herself without causing her to live in constant fear? How do I explain why a man still makes more than she does? What do I say when her first boyfriend breaks her heart and she never wants to date again (by the way according to my husband she is never allowed to date anyways)? My little girl is my whole world, but I want her to build a full and multifaceted world for herself, where she experiences adventures, is aware of the dangers of this modern world, and at the end of the day knows who she is and adds a little “pretty” where ever she goes.
As a new mom questions like these plus many more cross my mind everyday, and I look into her pretty little face and I am so excited to see her grow and become her own person. Of course these are all rhetorical in nature but they are something that will be answered as my husband and I navigate being her parents, and of course my little Charlotte will become the person that she wants to become.
Nothing but love and support to all the moms out there (and I know all you boy moms have your own list of hopes and dreams being a girl mom is just my experience).
and Little Miss Charlotte